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I'm getting better at letting my kids fail

Sometimes it's better to step outside our comfort zones

Street signs labelled Failure and Success

I find it hard as a parent to let my kids fail.

My son was getting ready for soccer practice. I used to remind him, item by item, to pack all his things.

"Do you have your water bottle? How about your cleats? Your shin pads? Ball? Socks?"

I got tired of reminding him. To be more accurate, I got tired of needing to know. One . . .

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February 14, 2019

Chris Triantafilou taught me about compassion, caring and kindness

Coach "Tri" always had my best interests at heart

University of Waterloo Warrior defensive backs 1994

Chris Triantafilou with University of Waterloo Warrior Football Defensive Backs, 1994

IN THE END, football was just a backdrop for the lessons we learned.

When I found out that Chris Triantafilou had passed suddenly from cancer on October 25, my heart sank.

Coach Tri (pronounced "Tree") was one of the most caring, thoughtful, . . .

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October 30, 2018

Why I'm saying 'no' to perfectionism

Imperfect action is a lot better for my mental health

Sign that reads 'wisdom', with perfectionism crossed out underneathPerfectionism is not altogether a bad thing. It's good to have high standards.

But it's doing me more harm than good.

I think I may have unwittingly passed my perfectionism on to my kids.

I realized this playing catch with my son. He was way too hard on himself because he wasn't catching every ball.

One of my simplest . . .

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June 08, 2018

This is why empathy between a parent and child is important

After dislocating my finger, I'm forever grateful for my kids' love and concern

Baby holding parent's hand
Photo: Freeimages.com – Adrian, Canada

I was 4 and I’ll never forget.

Our gazes locked. A kindergarten classmate; her eyes, red, swollen. Tears streamed down her face.

I felt something. You know the feeling. Starts in your heart, works its way through your throat, eyes, rolling like the surf crashing toward shore.

. . .

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July 20, 2017

This story will make you question manhood

Being only tough and strong limits boys and men

Football players at line of scrimmage
Photo: Freeimages.com – Josef Faustbeck

Take it like a man.

How often have you heard this expression? Or maybe one of its cousins: Man up. Don’t be a sissy. Be a man. Don’t cry.

When I played university football, emblazoned at the top of our dressing room, in huge, black lettering, read the words: INTIMIDATE AND . . .

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July 06, 2017

An awesome Redblacks Grey Cup parade

My son and I joined thousands for an Ottawa football celebration

Ottawa Redblacks parade on Bank Street

A grey, drab, Tuesday morning. Ottawa awoke to a thin sheet of freezing rain coating the streets. By noon, the temperature had risen, the ice had melted and thousands of fans lined Bank Street for a victory parade to cheer on their football heroes and 2016 Grey Cup champions, the Ottawa Redblacks.

We parked on Fourth Avenue between . . .

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December 01, 2016

Growing up Grey Cup

The Canadian Football League is quirky, exciting and intimate

Montreal at BC, 2005

The television’s blue-hued light flickered in the dark. “I hear someone coming,” I whispered to my brother. “Turn off the TV and hide!” The stairs creaked as Dad made his way downstairs to get a drink of water. We hid behind the laundry room door.

“Shh … be quiet or we’ll get in . . .

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November 24, 2016

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