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Daddy Daydreamer

I made myself redundant as a stay-at-home dad

My family needs me in different ways—and that's OK

Dad and kids in costumes

This article first appeared in The Good Men Project on February 10, 2017.

For over six years, I was very comfortable in my role as stay-at-home dad. But I knew it was time for a change.

My kids are in school full time. They don’t need me in the same ways. They don’t need me to hover. A healthy sign of their . . .

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Posted in: stay-at-home dad

February 23, 2017

Fuzzy Bunny and Winter Apples

How a bunny learned to like apples more than carrots

Boy holding stuffed animal by crabapple tree

Fuzzy Bunny was not a bear.

He was a rabbit. He did have hair.

He did not like carrots as much as you'd think.

Oh, sure he liked them, but what he loved, were Winter Apples.

His friend, S, led Fuzzy out to the yard. They came across an apple tree. Not just any apple tree, but a crabapple tree.

"Do you want to try a . . .

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February 09, 2017

Let's talk about mental illness

I'm no longer silent about bipolar disorder

I've blogged about depression, but something always held me back about bipolar disorder. Well, here it goes ...

Silvrback blog image

In my early twenties, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

I went through bouts of mania where, in no particular order, I trashed my townhouse, ran up large debts, got kicked out of bars, had run-ins with police, . . .

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January 25, 2017

New Year's at Oma and Opa's

A poem

Fireworks

We rang in the new year at the home of Oma and Opa, who are parents of a family friend. Their Dutch hospitality was affectionate, amazing, genuine. Thank you, Oma and Opa! The kids, my wife and I enjoyed every minute.

New Year's at Oma and Opa's

Silver mirrored sun
over familial hearth
reflects a memory;
firewood stacked
. . .

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Posted in: new yearpoetry

January 12, 2017

Smells like recess

A poem

Kids at play

Smells Like Recess

Ball up in sky
like rocket to moon.
Cartwheel exquisite;
polka dot ball.

If I were a spider
on the wall,
I would crawl
into your arms,
jump over the net,
mixed dirt and sweat
stained cap
smells
like recess—

smells like
love.

Bell rings,
time to leave fun;
back to class,
sit up straight.

You have . . .

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December 15, 2016

An awesome Redblacks Grey Cup parade

My son and I joined thousands for an Ottawa football celebration

Ottawa Redblacks parade on Bank Street

A grey, drab, Tuesday morning. Ottawa awoke to a thin sheet of freezing rain coating the streets. By noon, the temperature had risen, the ice had melted and thousands of fans lined Bank Street for a victory parade to cheer on their football heroes and 2016 Grey Cup champions, the Ottawa Redblacks.

We parked on Fourth Avenue between . . .

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December 01, 2016

Growing up Grey Cup

The Canadian Football League is quirky, exciting and intimate

Montreal at BC, 2005

The television’s blue-hued light flickered in the dark. “I hear someone coming,” I whispered to my brother. “Turn off the TV and hide!” The stairs creaked as Dad made his way downstairs to get a drink of water. We hid behind the laundry room door.

“Shh … be quiet or we’ll get in . . .

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November 24, 2016

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