Daddy Daydreamer

About fathers, heroes, love and patience

Heroes don't need to fix things. They support their loved ones in their growth and healing

What I hope for you, maybe the greatest thing that a father can hope for his son, is that one day you will become a father yourself. And then you will know how much I truly love you.

– Henry Allen, to his son, Barry, in an episode of The Flash.

Family, circa 1980

WHEN I THINK OF BEING A FATHER and everything that means, I also think of being . . .

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January 17, 2020

Take the time to consider time

We do more things. We have less time

Neural clock for time

Image: Kolbjørn Skarpnes & Rita Elmkvist Nilsen / NTNU & Kavli Institute for Systems Neuroscience. Shared under Creative Commons license 

2020. A new year, a new decade. It sounds so futuristic to me! I remember when I was my older son's age, it was 1985. I was walking to school thinking what the world would . . .

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January 05, 2020

Make (insert your cause here) great again

A poem

 Make insert your cause here great again

Image: Creative Commons license


Sometimes i don't really see
the point of life of strife
of berating of complaining
of everything

everyone is so outraged
so mean so hateful
so easy to jump on another
point a finger

say things to others
with little regard
in that regard
i find it . . .

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December 15, 2019

Narcissist in nice guy's clothing

Wolf sheeps clothing barlow
Image: Francis Barlow [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons

narcissist in nice guy's clothing

To: The narcissist in me
From: Some form of me

Re: The world is not against you

how can you love someone so much it hurts the pain the sadness i sometimes assume i don't wanna take away your pain but i do i know it's not healthy . . .

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December 05, 2019

What makes a house a home?

A poem

Dad lifting son


This old house you lay in your crib
This old house you wore your first bib
This old house you read your first book
This old house you gave me this look

This old house I held you in my arms
This old house I kept you from harm
This old house your bike seat I let go
This old house you rode to and fro

This old house . . .

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November 22, 2019

How a potluck lunch brought me closer with my colleagues

Food tastes a lot better with good company

Friends eating lunch

Image: Dan Gold [CC0]

The "dîner de dorés" (pickerel feast) was a couple months in the making. My colleague, Louise, often talks of her love of fishing and being on the lake with her family.

"One day I'll bring in some fish I've caught for a nice team lunch," she told the team at work.

Louise sent the invite . . .

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September 11, 2019

The most excellent epic Ottawa River summer bicycle bridge tour

Here's a great family activity to explore Ottawa and Gatineau on your bike

Alexandria Bridge, Ottawa-Gatineau

Alexandria Bridge, Ottawa-Gatineau. Photo: Robert Linsdell [CC BY 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

MOM, YOU AND I went for a bike ride. All the way downtown. We explored the bridges over the Ottawa River. We crossed the Alexandria Bridge, which was built in 1900. The cyclist-pedestrian portion of the bridge deck is wood. It sounded like a . . .

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August 09, 2019


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