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Daddy Daydreamer

I wish I embraced Taiwanese culture as a kid

Rejecting my ethnicity exposed a childhood insecurity with being different

Chinese food with beers

“Dad, why do you look different from us?” my son asked, over dinner.

“Whaddya mean?” I replied, glancing at some stir-fried bok choy.

“You're darker than us,” he said, comparing my skin tone to his and his brother’s. “Why is that?”

“Um,” I stuttered, “the ingredients that A-Kong and A-Ma made me with are a bit different than the . . .

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April 28, 2016

When I take my children to the park, I can't resist the urge to discipline other kids

Disciplining other people’s children can be a dicey business

child climbing ropes

This essay originally appeared in The Globe and Mail on January 26, 2016.

Disciplining other people’s children can be a dicey business. I sometimes face this issue at our neighbourhood park, where I often take my kids after school.

I am a former teacher, so the playground is very familiar to me: It’s where a different type of education . . .

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March 17, 2016

A motorist's racist comment got me thinking

Veiled remarks allow bigots to discount their prejudiced behaviour

Stop sign

We sauntered along the sidewalk, mature trees overhanging narrow street, morning air already muggy. Aunty stopped briefly to chat with a friend. Built close to the road, their old Victorian homes foster interaction between neighbours.

“I'll meet you at the coffee shop,” she said.

“Sure,” I cheerfully replied. My wife and I slowly ferried . . .

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January 21, 2016

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