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Daddy Daydreamer

How my son dealt with smelly comments about his lunch

Classmates made fun of his seaweed sandwich

Seaweed sandwich

"Dad," youngest said quietly at the dinner table, "some people made fun of my food today."

All the memories came flooding back. I told him when I was a kid, sometimes A-Ma packed cold chicken legs in my lunchbox. Although I loved chicken, I felt different from those with peanut butter and jelly sandwiches (back then it was okay to bring in . . .

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June 23, 2016

I wish I embraced Taiwanese culture as a kid

Rejecting my ethnicity exposed a childhood insecurity with being different

Chinese food with beers

“Dad, why do you look different from us?” my son asked, over dinner.

“Whaddya mean?” I replied, glancing at some stir-fried bok choy.

“You're darker than us,” he said, comparing my skin tone to his and his brother’s. “Why is that?”

“Um,” I stuttered, “the ingredients that A-Kong and A-Ma made me with are a bit different than the . . .

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April 28, 2016

A motorist's racist comment got me thinking

Veiled remarks allow bigots to discount their prejudiced behaviour

Stop sign

We sauntered along the sidewalk, mature trees overhanging narrow street, morning air already muggy. Aunty stopped briefly to chat with a friend. Built close to the road, their old Victorian homes foster interaction between neighbours.

“I'll meet you at the coffee shop,” she said.

“Sure,” I cheerfully replied. My wife and I slowly ferried . . .

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January 21, 2016

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