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My child flipped out—staying calm wasn't easy

Dealing with kids' anger is a tricky thing

Angry lemon

Photo: Freeimages.com – Roman Volkov

This post contains coarse language.

It's amazing how quickly things can go from happy to shit show.

One minute everything's fine. Then someone gets angry, seemingly out of nowhere. But if you examine further, there's often an underlying issue, some resentment that's been festering.

My boys were . . .

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September 29, 2017

This is why empathy between a parent and child is important

After dislocating my finger, I'm forever grateful for my kids' love and concern

Baby holding parent's hand
Photo: Freeimages.com – Adrian, Canada

I was 4 and I’ll never forget.

Our gazes locked. A kindergarten classmate; her eyes, red, swollen. Tears streamed down her face.

I felt something. You know the feeling. Starts in your heart, works its way through your throat, eyes, rolling like the surf crashing toward shore.

I cried. Because . . .

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July 20, 2017

This story will make you question manhood

Being only tough and strong prevents boys and men from discovering their authentic selves

Football players at line of scrimmage
Photo: Freeimages.com – Josef Faustbeck

Take it like a man.

How often have you heard this expression? Or maybe one of its cousins: Man up. Don’t be a sissy. Be a man. Don’t cry.

When I played university football, emblazoned at the top of our dressing room, in huge, black lettering, read the words: INTIMIDATE AND DOMINATE.

I . . .

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July 06, 2017

Maybe I don't want to stop this feeling

(Even if it hurts)

Dad and young boy on bike
Photo: Freeimages.com – Mignonne Meekels

Maybe I don't want to stop this feeling
(Even if it hurts)

ball of emotion
compact, sweet
undercurrent
pride
wistful
DNA extension
how do you elicit this
range
bass to treble
8va
octave
crescendo of love
dolce
molto vivace
sometimes anger
but always
intense
hard to detach
maybe i don't want to
stop this feeling . . .

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Posted in: emotionspoetry

June 22, 2017

My son broke his collarbone and my heart skipped a beat

A morning in Urgent Care reminded us to slow things down

Arm in sling
Photo – Freeimages.com: Jacque Stengel

The pain must have been excruciating upon impact. I cringe at the thought of my seven-year-old's collarbone snapping.

The call came in at 11:03 a.m. The school secretary said he fell playing soccer. They put his arm in a sling; after tears, he returned to class. She said he seemed okay. Nobody . . .

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Posted in: emotions

June 08, 2017

How my mom inspired me to be a writer

She fostered a love of reading and writing through her diary

Journal and hat on bench, photo by Sue Anna Joe
Photo: Freeimages.com – Sue Anna Joe

When I was a kid, Mom encouraged me to keep a journal. "Aw, do I have to write?" I often complained.

She said I'd thank her as an adult.

My mother documented her experiences and viewed things from my kid perspective. The diary, sometimes written in the second person, was like a pre-internet blog.

She . . .

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May 11, 2017

How I'm coping with my sons' sibling rivalry

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction

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Newton's third law:

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

I use this as a reminder in coping with my sons' sibling rivalry. Usually, it starts over something silly (at least it seems that way to me). Whether it's a water bottle, soccer ball, video game, it doesn't matter. The argument is basically the same. One kid . . .

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April 20, 2017

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