Daddy Daydreamer

This is why empathy between a parent and child is important

After dislocating my finger, I'm forever grateful for my kids' love and concern

Baby holding parent's hand
Photo: Freeimages.com – Adrian, Canada

I was 4 and I’ll never forget.

Our gazes locked. A kindergarten classmate; her eyes, red, swollen. Tears streamed down her face.

I felt something. You know the feeling. Starts in your heart, works its way through your throat, eyes, rolling like the surf crashing toward shore.

I cried. Because . . .

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July 20, 2017

This story will make you question manhood

Being only tough and strong prevents boys and men from discovering their authentic selves

Football players at line of scrimmage
Photo: Freeimages.com – Josef Faustbeck

Take it like a man.

How often have you heard this expression? Or maybe one of its cousins: Man up. Don’t be a sissy. Be a man. Don’t cry.

When I played university football, emblazoned at the top of our dressing room, in huge, black lettering, read the words: INTIMIDATE AND DOMINATE.

I . . .

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July 06, 2017

Maybe I don't want to stop this feeling

(Even if it hurts)

Dad and young boy on bike
Photo: Freeimages.com – Mignonne Meekels

Maybe I don't want to stop this feeling
(Even if it hurts)

ball of emotion
compact, sweet
undercurrent
pride
wistful
DNA extension
how do you elicit this
range
bass to treble
8va
octave
crescendo of love
dolce
molto vivace
sometimes anger
but always
intense
hard to detach
maybe i don't want to
stop this feeling . . .

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Posted in: emotionspoetry

June 22, 2017

My son broke his collarbone and my heart skipped a beat

A morning in Urgent Care reminded us to slow things down

Arm in sling
Photo – Freeimages.com: Jacque Stengel

The pain must have been excruciating upon impact. I cringe at the thought of my seven-year-old's collarbone snapping.

The call came in at 11:03 a.m. The school secretary said he fell playing soccer. They put his arm in a sling; after tears, he returned to class. She said he seemed okay. Nobody . . .

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Posted in: emotions

June 08, 2017

It takes a child to make the man

A poem

Father, son playing at the park

It takes a child to make the man

Dandelion seeds
land on our noses.
Slide down the hill,
check out our poses!

Wiping out in the mud,
Ribbon Bear laughs
at J's mouthful of slop
and S's tumbling flop.

Let's do it again!
all three of them yell,
it's obvious to tell
laughter and friendship
are innate and true

and watching these
kids and a bear
make Dad . . .

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May 25, 2017

How my mom inspired me to be a writer

She fostered a love of reading and writing through her diary

Journal and hat on bench, photo by Sue Anna Joe
Photo: Freeimages.com – Sue Anna Joe

When I was a kid, Mom encouraged me to keep a journal. "Aw, do I have to write?" I often complained.

She said I'd thank her as an adult.

My mother documented her experiences and viewed things from my kid perspective. The diary, sometimes written in the second person, was like a pre-internet blog.

She . . .

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May 11, 2017

Dealing with the stigma surrounding lice

The critters are unsightly, but not a health hazard

Silvrback blog image

Our family dealt with head lice for the first time, back in March. Lice are unsightly but don't carry disease. Other than a bit of scratching, they're harmless and don't pose a health hazard. But there is a stigma attached to them.

When we found the critters in our sons' hair, I admittedly was digusted.

I did a lot of research . . .

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May 04, 2017

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