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How I'm coping with my sons' sibling rivalry

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction

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Newton's third law:

For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

I use this as a reminder in coping with my sons' sibling rivalry. Usually, it starts over something silly (at least it seems that way to me). Whether it's a water bottle, soccer ball, video game, it doesn't matter. The argument is basically the same. One kid . . .

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April 20, 2017

Shutdown & Drummer Boy

Two poems

power button

Shutdown

Shutdown
don't talk—
ignore the old man,
he's angry.
I deserve it,
just don't yell
at me anymore,
Dad

I cry cuz it
hurts my feelings
I annoy my brother
cuz it's so fun
I'm just a kid
brain not fully formed

don't expect me
to be an adult—
I'm just a kid,
just a kid
don't kid yourself;
think I'm doin'
pretty good

I hate you
. . .

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Posted in: poetry

April 06, 2017

After ten years, I finally reconnected with my long-lost friend

Life is not a good excuse for falling out of touch

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I hadn’t seen my good friend in ten years. He moved over 4,000 kilometres away and we lost touch. Life kind of got in the way. So in July, 2016, we flew out to visit and reconnect.

We were greeted warmly at the airport. A pleasant surprise. If I knew they were waiting on us, I wouldn’t have dawdled with the kids watching the Euro . . .

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Posted in: friendship

March 22, 2017

The most precious gift I can give is my time

My sons and I enjoy a professional development day together

Jet streaking across sky leaving contrails

P.D. Day!

Hear the swish-swish of their snow pants as we walk home from drugstore. Sun, so bright, reflecting off snow. Younger likes to hold my hand still, sometimes. Older walks ahead, blazing a trail on slushy sidewalk. We laugh, waddle, joke. Feel like a new dad, all over again.

Silver jet streaks above, double contrails painting . . .

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March 09, 2017

I made myself redundant as a stay-at-home dad

My family needs me in different ways—and that's OK

Dad and kids in costumes

This article first appeared in The Good Men Project on February 10, 2017.

For over six years, I was very comfortable in my role as stay-at-home dad. But I knew it was time for a change.

My kids are in school full time. They don’t need me in the same ways. They don’t need me to hover. A healthy sign of their growing . . .

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Posted in: stay-at-home dad

February 23, 2017

Fuzzy Bunny and Winter Apples

How a bunny learned to like apples more than carrots

Boy holding stuffed animal by crabapple tree

Fuzzy Bunny was not a bear.

He was a rabbit. He did have hair.

He did not like carrots as much as you'd think.

Oh, sure he liked them, but what he loved, were Winter Apples.

His friend, S, led Fuzzy out to the yard. They came across an apple tree. Not just any apple tree, but a crabapple tree.

"Do you want to try a crabapple, Fuzzy?" S . . .

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February 09, 2017

Let's talk about mental illness

I'm no longer silent about bipolar disorder

Every year around this time, the Bell Let's Talk campaign is front and centre. I admire the spokespeople who share their personal stories in the hopes of raising awareness about mental illness.

I've blogged about depression, but something always held me back about bipolar disorder. Well, here it goes ...

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In my early twenties, I was . . .

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January 25, 2017

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