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You came into this world—a blessing

A poem for my younger son, who turned 8

Dad and baby 2

You came into this world—a blessing

you came into this world
a blessing
wrapped in love, a cry
your journey began
taller i stand
when i'm holding
your hand

i put you to sleep
kiss on the cheek
i look at the clock
think of skipping rocks
with you

time has warped by
minutiae of life
through joy
through strife
i see you, baby
no longer so young
. . .

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October 03, 2017

My child flipped out—staying calm wasn't easy

Dealing with kids' anger is a tricky thing

Angry lemon

Photo: Freeimages.com – Roman Volkov

This post contains coarse language.

It's amazing how quickly things can go from happy to shit show.

One minute everything's fine. Then someone gets angry, seemingly out of nowhere. But if you examine further, there's often an underlying issue, some resentment that's been festering.

My boys were . . .

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September 29, 2017

GMC says being a good father, friend or son isn't good enough

"Like a pro" commercial: Inspirational or perfection-obsessed?

GMC truck on bridge

Photo: Freeimages.com – Kevin Copple

I was watching a football game on television with my sons, when a GMC commercial appeared. From a marketing perspective, their “Like a Pro” campaign is well-crafted, and targets its demographic (white-collar, upper-middle-class males) well.

The ad starts with an inspiring musical . . .

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September 21, 2017

My parents have been married 50 years and they're still going strong

Of the many things they've taught me, three stand out

Family circa late 1970s

Fifty years equals 2,607 weeks. Fifty years equals 18,250 days. Fifty years equals 438,000 hours. Fifty years is a long time.

But love helps time pass quickly. So, it’s safe to say—fifty years have zoomed by for my parents.

My mom and dad recently celebrated their 50th anniversary. They've been married five decades! I’ve . . .

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August 25, 2017

In the blink of an eye

A poem for my older son, who turned 10

Dad with newborn

In the blink of an eye

In the blink of an eye
you grew;
ten years gone by
i knew
the day
you were born,
my life
had changed
forever.

In the blink of an eye
you smiled;
a dimple
curl of the lip
sip of youth
dance of joy;
truth
beholden,
bond—
golden.

In the blink of an eye
i try
to freeze
a stitch of time
how sublime
to hear your laugh
to hear your cry
i . . .

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August 03, 2017

This is why empathy between a parent and child is important

After dislocating my finger, I'm forever grateful for my kids' love and concern

Baby holding parent's hand
Photo: Freeimages.com – Adrian, Canada

I was 4 and I’ll never forget.

Our gazes locked. A kindergarten classmate; her eyes, red, swollen. Tears streamed down her face.

I felt something. You know the feeling. Starts in your heart, works its way through your throat, eyes, rolling like the surf crashing toward shore.

I cried. Because . . .

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July 20, 2017

This story will make you question manhood

Being only tough and strong prevents boys and men from discovering their authentic selves

Football players at line of scrimmage
Photo: Freeimages.com – Josef Faustbeck

Take it like a man.

How often have you heard this expression? Or maybe one of its cousins: Man up. Don’t be a sissy. Be a man. Don’t cry.

When I played university football, emblazoned at the top of our dressing room, in huge, black lettering, read the words: INTIMIDATE AND DOMINATE.

I . . .

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July 06, 2017

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